Kshama is the Sanskrit word for the virtue that comprehends patience, temperance, forbearance and in a certain sense, pardon .
Practising it involves restraining intolerance with people and impatience with circumstances. Implies remaining serene, patient and observing self-restraint under all circumstances, doing good to all, even to those who may want to harm you.
It is one of the traditional Yamas (restrictions) of Hinduism mentioned in the Vedas and it’s considered paramount for spiritual development.
Kshama is not achieved by Reading books or learnt from an instructor. Nor can it be received as a gift from someone else. This prime virtue Kshama can be aquired solely by self-effort, that is by facing diverse problems squarely, enduring difficulties of various sorts, not giving in to anxieties, and bearing with equanimity suffering as well as sorrow. In the absence of Kshama, man becomes susceptible to various evil tendences. Hatred and jelaousy easily take root in a person lacking this virtue.
Kshama is best cultivated under adverse circumstances, and one must therefore gladly welcome troubles instead of regarding them as unwelcome.
Impatience is a main part of everyday life. Everybody is in a hurry and our pressing needs collide with each other. Past frustrations and future projections overlap. We spend most of our lives planning and missing things or chasing assumed duties denying us the time to actually “live”. Nothing easier and harder tan break that vicious cycle, and to do so, Yoga is a very useful tool, and Kshama, a valuable inspiration: The intention to start a better life style and therefore improve our well-being.
Forgiveness: Shankarachaya says is unaffectedness when beaten or reviled.
Those who have the capacity and opportunity to avenge the wrongs done to them but decide instead to forgive the offender and forget the wrong, those are practising Kshama, showing strength of character, although from the outside could be seen as a weakness sign.
Forbearance: Life is full of uncertainty, and one has top it up with so many unpleasant things in life. There is no guarantee that good and righteous people will not suffer. Those who bear all the afflictions without caring to redress them, being free at the same time from anxiety or lament on their score, will definitely be happier whatever the circumstances
Patience: Ability to wait for an expected outcome without experiencing anxiety, tension or frustration.
There are many factors affecting the outcome of all our actions. We can only do what best we can and accept with patience whatever be the outcome.
We live in an age of instantaneous gratification. That is why we become so agitated when things get delayed. We become deeply disappointed when our expectations do not come true. But success comes only to those who have infinite patience.
Impatience is a sure cause of failure and can impair our health greatly. Many times it’s a sign that our actions are done as a matter of duty and not with a sense of joy.
Practice and Benefits:
Life is full of uncertainty. Actions are in our hands but results are beyond our control. Therefore, disappointments are inevitable. To face these ups and downs of life, Kshama is a must.
Again diversity is inherent in creation. Hence, no two minds think alike. Yet we need to learn to accept each other’s views and accommodate each other’s interests. It is Kshama that enables us to accomplish this.
The greatest benefit is the presence of balance in life. Practice of Kshama gives us a sense of equanimity. We are able to take happiness and joy in a neutral manner. It gives us courage to face the challenges of life
Kshama helps us to get rid of the anxiety that comes with rush and stress, and brings us peace, soothing our tendency to worry too much. This well-being feeling will also help to improve our health.